Czech Women and Cheating

Discussion in 'Culture' started by leon700, Jun 15, 2006.

  1. leon700

    leon700 Member

    I am desperately seeking advice on topic that is causing me some concern.

    I am currently in a serious relationship with a Czech girl I met in Oz, we have been together for 7 months now and she is about to move to England to be with me. I really want this to work and she is my ideal partner except for the fact that I am finding it hard to trust her.

    When we first met in Australia she had a boyfreiend back home and made no secrets of her affairs with other men whilst she was with him. I of course was one of them. Things started to go really well and we both fell for each other, however I havnt seen her for almost two months now as she finalises things back home to move abroad.

    Reading on this site and others I have found that monogamy is a virtue that is not rife in the czech culture and way of life, I desperately dont want this to be true however I am becoming increasingly concerned about it, too the point where I am putting a strain on our relationship. I have been faithfull since we have been apart and I am certain that I could retain that bond. I just hope that I am not being made to look like a fool.

    From what I have read and heard from my girfriend I knok that the czechs are quite liberal when it comes to sex, but the thought of her with another man makes my stomoch turn and I dont want a relationship where cheating is accepted.

    I am basically looking for any advice or opinion on the czech way of life when it comes to relationsips as I would like to understand and know more about it.

    An outsider looking in........

    Thanks

    Leon
     
  2. Zeisig

    Zeisig Well-Known Member

    There's no specific Czech way of life. Everybody can choose his/her own way.

    Maybe someone else will be more verbose, but I am affraid that nobody will give you an efficient advice.
     
  3. Sova

    Sova Well-Known Member

    As Zeisig says, you'll find Czechs who are completely faithful, and you'll find the other polar opposite. There is no generalization in this matter that fits the Czech culture.

    My 2ยข: Your "ideal" partner should be someone you trust implicitly.
     
  4. Milewicz

    Milewicz Active Member

    I think an important thing to bear in mind is that there are women who cheat and women who won't in nearly every country. Some people have virtue, some are honest, and some are not.

    I think that you should sit down and talk with her about this. If she blows you off or is reluctant to talk about it, cut the ties. It'll be really painful initially, but long-term you'll be much better off.

    You can't force a person to be faithful and you can't control a person. But if she refuses to address it seriously, you can stand up for what you believe in and you can stand up for yourself by walking away and telling her why. If she doesn't understand, it is her loss 100%, and don't think it isn't. Stand up for yourself and tell her how you feel. Good luck.
     
  5. dzurisova

    dzurisova Well-Known Member

    You should also honestly ask yourself, "Is it her you can't trust or do you have trouble trusting any girlfriend?" If it's her, end the relationship, who would want to sit around doubting one's faithfulness all day?

    If you look back and find that you've had trouble trusting every girlfriend, then you should seek some counseling to learn to trust your significant other.
     
  6. quadc3

    quadc3 New Member

    An old saying goes like this "If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you..."

    Be careful....you have to protect your heart first. Intuition is ignored too often. If you don't trust her in your heart, then why would you trust her in your home?

    Anyways, good luck with whatever decision you make.

    Chris
     
  7. atyka

    atyka Well-Known Member

    I would say this is right. And Leon knows it. But trust her. And if she turns a .. kick her out.
     
  8. scrimshaw

    scrimshaw Well-Known Member

    hele---tenhle je misto, ze muze clovek prijit, aby se naucil o zenach.
    Tak dobra rada.
    Jestli ji nemuzes verit v srdce, nemuzes ji verit v dome.
    Ale take nekdo musi rozumet, ze nekdy srdce nebozi jen jednemu clovekemu. Srdce a laska jsou velke veci.
    Jen vec, je uplne nezbytnost, aby oba tohle spolu rozumeli predem!!!
    Nechceme rozbite srdce. Vsichni vi, jak bolestivy to je.
     
  9. Shaka

    Shaka Active Member

    :x damn, have you ever seen Hostel? good film, shows exactly how europeans girls manipulate ya! cheatin aint as bad as gettin people gutted for a lot of money, shows they can easily walk over ya,

    people cheat everywhere though, look how many marriges get wrecked in UK because of cheatin, aint jus CZ!
     
  10. JoanneL

    JoanneL Member

    Leon,

    To me, integrity (including fidelity) is everything and the most important criteria. Without it, everything else does not matter anymore.

    Well, have a chat with her & you can gauge (from body language) and her opinion whether does she intend to stay faithful. If she does and you love her dearly, give her a chance.

    Otherwise, be hurt now than later. Close this chapter of your life. Time will heal, and move on.

    The mere fact of her infidelity now seems like eating you up. I am a no nonsense person and I don't take that.

    Cheers... JoanneL
     

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