Typical Czech Engagement and Wedding Customs

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Typical Czech Engagement and Wedding Customs

Postby <3MyCzech » 05-Mar-07 1:53

Well, its pretty obvious by my name. I am in love with a Czech man. I'm curious what the common procedures and traditions are for getting engaged and eventually married.. For instance, I don't think engagement rings are given. Because he doesn't seem to know alot about them. As a Czech person..what is a reasonable amount of time to date before getting engaged and how long does a typical engagement last? I know that it varies on the people involved and the situation. Just curious if there is any standard amount of time, people tend to wait. Does a czech man ask the women's family before proposing? Or anything else vital I need to know ? A girl can only dream :) Thank you in advance for any replies
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Postby Eleshar » 05-Mar-07 11:42

Well... typical Czech engagement is something like batavian ritual of manhood. The man, in order to get his woman, must raise a pack of cattle and when asking the woman's family he sacrifices two strongest bulls of the pack in honor of both father and mother of the woman he desires. Of course, we are not in middle-ages now, so the part with raising the pack is somehow... obsolete, it is in fact completely sufficient to buy two cows (and not even necessarily bulls) and perform the offering ritual. If the parents are satisfied with the sacrifice, then the future husband invites all his friend to engagement night where they must perform a dance expressing their unity and mutual support (I think it is something like when the time of need arises, they will stand together to protect their homes). I think the ritual was very firmly established, but today it becomes more and more free and it is rather spectacular show for the passers-by (whole community is often invited to such a celebration). If the parents are pleased, the future husband comes forward to them and they pierce his ears and nose with golden earrings which he may not take off until the wedding night. In fact, it is not piercing as it once was, those earring are now rather "clasps" because it was somehow... er... messy with all the blood, and you know the healthcare was not what it is today and sometimes it happened that the husband got a very nasty infection and the wedding had to be postponed.

Er...

Not really.

In fact...

Nothing I have just written is true, except the part the we are not in middle-ages, so the wedding is essentially between the two. The Czech republic is normal country of western style, so if the two persons decide to live together and marry each other, it is only their choice. Well, I admit tat there are some more traditional families where it is desirable to ask to parents of the woman, but essentially they cannot obstruct the wedding legally (if the woman is above 18, of course:))). So I do not think there is anything special with our wedding rites in comparison to other western countries... For the time of dating, it depends... I think about 3 years is a minimum, but there are of course some crazy people who marry each other after a week's acquaintance...
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Postby GlennInFlorida » 05-Mar-07 13:21

Great reply - thanks for making my morning fun :D
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Postby Sova » 06-Mar-07 0:35

You have to love the Czech sense of humor! :lol: :lol:

The Czech "traditions" with regards to engagement and marriage (assuming there are any, of course :wink: ) are not really any different from that in the USA. In other words, they vary as much as the individuals getting engaged/married. So if you and your boyfriend are at that stage, then probably it's time to have that conversation where you start deciding how you two personally are going to procede. In the end, does it really matter how anyone else or society wants you to do things anyway?
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Postby richndebczechaus » 22-Mar-07 0:28

What a wonderful reply Eleshar has posted :D :D
I cannot seem to stop laughing :D
Well Done
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I hope your dreams come true with your Czech Mate 3MyCzech ( just like mine did so many years ago:) )
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Postby <3MyCzech » 17-Oct-07 8:21

Well, he did his research thoroughly :) So we're engaged..hooray!! :D
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Postby richndebczechaus » 17-Oct-07 11:15

:D Congratulations on your engagement!!!!
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Postby dzurisova » 18-Oct-07 18:27

Congrats!!!
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Postby Eleshar » 19-Oct-07 20:18

I see even my best efforts did not save you from the shackles of marriage :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Postby barcajunior » 21-Jan-08 15:12

I like the wedding custom of Czech.
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